If you're like me, you realized it but were still unable to stop. I think I do this face at some point every day.
What does Sick Boy think he's going to do up on that top rope?
In her early-mid thirties she discovered EDM and it became her fucking passion. It was all about the next show/festival/whatever. And I'm more of a tiny venue hipster with a guitar kinda guy, so yeah I had zero interest. But I never judged, never rolled my eyes, look people have their own things, she didn't have to love everything I liked and vice versa. She would say a festival was coming up and I would be like awesome have fun - basically the same thing she'd give me if I said hey new Star Wars coming or whatever.
THAT BEING SAID
In anger and shock and despair, I did slip the night of the breakup. After she had laid everything out I, you know, might've said something like "I don't know what to say. I guess there's nowhere to go when one person is saying "I wanna move in together" and the other is saying "I wanna know where I can get cheap glowsticks!""
Look man when you're hurt you say things. Not proud of it. But ahhh... not going to apologize either.
You dodged a bullet. Girls who are hung up on the EDM/festival lifestyle seem strangely abundant these days. And I've had my own share of (albeit, fairly short) relationships not go my way because of my lack of interest in it. At the end of the day if they are prioritizing going to festivals over a long term relationship with you, they're being incredibly immature. It's even worse that she's already in her thirties. And if you look deep down you probably don't want that anyway.In her early-mid thirties she discovered EDM and it became her fucking passion. It was all about the next show/festival/whatever. And I'm more of a tiny venue hipster with a guitar kinda guy, so yeah I had zero interest. But I never judged, never rolled my eyes, look people have their own things, she didn't have to love everything I liked and vice versa. She would say a festival was coming up and I would be like awesome have fun - basically the same thing she'd give me if I said hey new Star Wars coming or whatever.
THAT BEING SAID
In anger and shock and despair, I did slip the night of the breakup. After she had laid everything out I, you know, might've said something like "I don't know what to say. I guess there's nowhere to go when one person is saying "I wanna move in together" and the other is saying "I wanna know where I can get cheap glowsticks!""
Look man when you're hurt you say things. Not proud of it. But ahhh... not going to apologize either.
I really don't understand why people are so awkward with exes.
How long away is it and do you have time to sexy yourself up a bit before then? (Lose a bit of weight, gain a bit of muscle mass, etc).
Man fuck that. Don't even bother going then.
exactly what you said OP, I had to be around a friend that we ended very badly at a recent wedding. friends for 20 years. I just avoided him at all costs honestly, but that worked well for me.Lemme bottom line it for you:
- Was seeing a woman seriously for about 5 years.
- Broke up about 4 years ago. Has been zero contact since, this will be the first encounter.
- She dumped me. One of the main reasons she gave: "I want to be with someone who shares my love of EDM." Reasons like that and it being sorta out of the blue caused me to take it poorly. It was a tough recovery, I felt low for a long while.
- Feel better now, and better off, and with someone new. She will be my plus 1 at the wedding. She has been briefed. That all being said: still a bit of a chip on my shoulder.
- My understanding is the ex will be bringing her new BF as well. I really don't care.
Okay now that I've laid it out: how do you comport yourself? Anyone been in a similar situation? MY inclination is the "polite stranger" tone: be nice/grownup, greet if you find yourself in the same space, but basically minimize and avoid contact. No need to make conversation or introduce new GF, and if I can get away with zero contact all evening hey I'll take it.
Thoughts?
how did it take so longWhole lot of bad advice in here. Say hello, tell her she looks nice and it was nice to see her again and move along. You know act like a polite adult.
I'll never have to listen to someone lay out what PLUR is again, so yeah it could be worse.
Don't do that at a wedding, ever/Have you considered proposing to your girlfriend at the wedding?
Lol. This!
I've been there, but more so i wasn't into the club scene. I don't like house music enough to stay in the hamptons 4 days a week every week from Memorial Day to Labor Day listening to "hot tracks" and having lock jaw from cocaine. Fuck that noise.
If she discovered EDM in her early to mid 30's and it's been 4 years since the break up, that puts you at the least damn near 40. So grow up. Go over and kill the big elephant in the room as soon as possible. That way you're not thinking about it the whole time and can actually enjoy yourself and not break out into a nervous sweat if you find yourself in the same Pepsi line or whatever the fuck they serve at a dry wedding. Go over, say hi, yada yada, good to see you, then move on. Trust me, you're going to feel so much better and wonder why you fussing over this for weeks.
If 3/4's of the replies here are serious, ya'll need help.