If I am on a first date and I liked cheese, $3 aint shit but yeah it does seem like a rip-off for sure
You're at a restaurant, you order a cheeseburger, but the server says it is 3 bucks extra, would you pay?
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$1? No problem.
$2? Sure.
$3? Nope.
At least she paid, but I feel like the guy dodged the bigger bullet. Just because everything is expensive nowadays doesn't mean you have to go "c'est la vie" and put up with it. Being judgmental over the luxury of $3 yellow American cheese!
$2? Sure.
$3? Nope.
At least she paid, but I feel like the guy dodged the bigger bullet. Just because everything is expensive nowadays doesn't mean you have to go "c'est la vie" and put up with it. Being judgmental over the luxury of $3 yellow American cheese!
A nice place isn't going to have their server say, " you want cheese with that, hon? That'll be 3 bucks extra."
LOL? Way to bury the lede, OP. I think the date dodged a bullet. Seems like she's trying to prove how New York she is or something.
I mean if cheese was $3 extra I would normally just pay but it depends on my finances. Maybe I'll just the burger with no cheese instead. And if my date walked out, I'd probably call the waitress back and ask for the cheese since I just saved myself about 120 pounds.
I mean if cheese was $3 extra I would normally just pay but it depends on my finances. Maybe I'll just the burger with no cheese instead. And if my date walked out, I'd probably call the waitress back and ask for the cheese since I just saved myself about 120 pounds.
I am so grateful that I'm out of the dating game and reading posts like these:
just validates it for me. Dude doesn't want to pay a ripoff price for a slice of cheese, but still orders the burger, and somehow he's a loser. Yikes.
$3 won't make me poor, but I wouldn't pay it out of principle.
just validates it for me. Dude doesn't want to pay a ripoff price for a slice of cheese, but still orders the burger, and somehow he's a loser. Yikes.
$3 won't make me poor, but I wouldn't pay it out of principle.
That whole story is funny... 1st dates, yikes. Reminds me of a friend talking about first dates. She asked "How many wings is approriate to eat on a first date with a guy?"
I said... "As many as you want?"
She was worried a guy would be offended if she packed away a bunch of wings lol.
I said... "As many as you want?"
She was worried a guy would be offended if she packed away a bunch of wings lol.
My date would be floored to find that I carry my own American cheese with me for situations like this.
A bigger problem is getting a burger on the first date. Not the cleanest food to eat when meeting someone for the first time, also that burger didn't look $21 worth. $14 at the most.
If my date started eating a burger with cutlery I'd have a similar reaction to the woman here.Clean enough if you eat it with cutlery.
Yes because I want a cheeseburger.
However back during my dating days, I would always look at a menu before a date and know exactly what I want as an entree (leaving the app as a fun discussion during the date)
Now with my family and on date nights with my wife, I still do this. I hate surprises and when menus show up that I am not expecting it takes me forever to make decisions.
But once I order that's it. I'm paying for what I ordered, because it's what I want.
The dude was a turd and she did the right thing
However back during my dating days, I would always look at a menu before a date and know exactly what I want as an entree (leaving the app as a fun discussion during the date)
Now with my family and on date nights with my wife, I still do this. I hate surprises and when menus show up that I am not expecting it takes me forever to make decisions.
But once I order that's it. I'm paying for what I ordered, because it's what I want.
The dude was a turd and she did the right thing
I don't eat cheese on burgers, especially trash ass American cheese. But if I did, no, I wouldn't pay it.
Sounds like the guy avoided a future hassle if she's going to dip over $3.
Sounds like the guy avoided a future hassle if she's going to dip over $3.
This back pocket is packing heat.
Bam! American Cheese is on my burger.
I would probably order some annoying vegetarian or vegan option which would select me from the get go.
On a date and in general I am never annoying to service workers. If it's expected and normal then I will say yes. If I have a choice and it's not too annoying then I will let them know.
Was the burger like $20 or something? Leaving a date over that is silly though. Sounds like a bullet was dodged.
She's ordering branzino (typically a $30-$50 dish in LA/NYC) and he's squeamish about paying an extra $3 for his cheeseburger. Probably not the best match financially. That said, what a shitty way to treat someone. At least finish the fucking date and let the poor bastard down gently instead of ghosting him and giving him a complex smh. Jfc I'm glad I'm not dating these days if this kind of treatment is normalized enough to share on social media!
I'd pay for it personally since a few bucks won't break me. But i'm not gonna look down on someone who is trying to save money
Alas, the thing about social media dating horror stories is that there's an actual economy around making the rare seem commonplace.
I would be willing to bet that the majority of dates don't play out this way.
If the branzino is in that price range, then how much was the burger?
Assuming it was the minimum $30, the meal was $55 according to her post, that's ~$25 for the rest of the meal.
Factor in that there's tax (~10% in NY so ~$5) and tip (I'm going to assume ~15 - 20% so $7.5 - $10), that burger was a minimum $12.5 burger. While not the best match financially, the cheese is basically $3/$12.5 ~= 25%. I'd be squeamish too if I had to pay that much cheese-to-burger ratio wise.
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I'm honestly scratching my head at the comments saying that he's a weirdo too or that not paying extra for cheese on a first date is somehow a red flag, particularly the way the situation unfolded as described by this girl 🤔
If I got asked I wanted extra cheese on that, I'd naturally ask if it's going to cost me extra, and if it does I probably wouldn't pay for it because at that point I had already planned to order a burger without cheese. Otherwise I'd have asked for extra cheese myself! If it's super cheap then yeah, I may bite, but no fucking way I'd pay 3$ more for an extra item I didn't really want in the first place, that's not being cheap nor weird at all, right...?
Full disclosure, I'll admit I'm pretty cheap so I very rarely order add-ons any way 😅 Only extra patties if I feel I'm not going to hit my protein goals otherwise, or sweet potato fries instead of regular fries if it's not too expensive.
If I got asked I wanted extra cheese on that, I'd naturally ask if it's going to cost me extra, and if it does I probably wouldn't pay for it because at that point I had already planned to order a burger without cheese. Otherwise I'd have asked for extra cheese myself! If it's super cheap then yeah, I may bite, but no fucking way I'd pay 3$ more for an extra item I didn't really want in the first place, that's not being cheap nor weird at all, right...?
Full disclosure, I'll admit I'm pretty cheap so I very rarely order add-ons any way 😅 Only extra patties if I feel I'm not going to hit my protein goals otherwise, or sweet potato fries instead of regular fries if it's not too expensive.
Some people might value frugality, especially if it's for ridiculous prices for something as cheap as cheese.
I'd like to hope so. I hope the vast majority of people are at least treating each other with basic decency even if it's not gonna work out.
Going by the cheese markup, I could see the burger being as high as in the $15-$20 range depending on what kind of place it is. I somewhat regularly get a $30 burger at this French restaurant I like in LA (one of the best things I've ever tasted ngl). But even if it was a 25% markup, cheese is pretty essential for me (makes a burger twice as good imo) so they'd have me by the balls lol.
I honestly can't wrap my head around looking at this story and drawing these conclusions. Dude simply said no to paying $3 for a damn slice of cheese, therefore he's a turd and she did the right thing by getting up in the middle of a date, sneaking away and ghosting him?
Someone please make it make sense.
Some of the people in this thread sound like prime material for dates from hell. I'd honestly rather be single, lmao.
First date for sure, I wouldn't want to give the impression of being cheap when it's something that small imo. Not to mention the thought of if this is an issue now just think of all the other little things someone would complain about later on in life. I would have at least finished the date though sneaking away is just wrong and says a lot about a person.
But I have to wonder was there no menu to look at before that would have listed all this?! What the heck is a branzino. So glad I don't live in NY.
But I have to wonder was there no menu to look at before that would have listed all this?! What the heck is a branzino. So glad I don't live in NY.
I don't think he's a "turd" or deserved to be ghosted, but if I was in her place I would assume we would end up fighting a lot about money in a serious relationship
Exactly. Why else would they come individually wrapped in plastic?
That's fair, but then I'd think it would be good manners to at least finish the date. Or at least ask to pay as soon as you're done eating, not just leave the person waiting like an idiot while you hop on social media to brag about it.
Not that it matters, I think. I have a suspicion that the whole thing is fabricated. Apparently she ghosted and blocked him, then in a follow-up video they allegedly spoke and laughed about it and are going on a second date. The story smells.
Oh im sure it was a fancy place, considering they had branzino. I could see how restaraunts would have me by the balls too if it was a favorite addition to a dish that I would want a must've. But man, restaurants should really have the upcharge listed on the menu. The man wanted a burger and was asked how he would like it. Then the waiter suggested an addition likely because that's the usualy practice to try to get them to spend more. Not the waiters fault honestly, probably management to get them to get cheese and pay later without realizing it since he had to ask
In the context of a first date, it depends on who is paying.
She's paying for both of us - maybe not.
She pays for herself - yes, but I never return there.
I pay for both of us - definitely yes, because I don't want her to feel guilty for her menu choices while I'm counting dollars. If I can't afford to eat out, then why the hell am I there?
Does any of it matter? Fuck no.
She's paying for both of us - maybe not.
She pays for herself - yes, but I never return there.
I pay for both of us - definitely yes, because I don't want her to feel guilty for her menu choices while I'm counting dollars. If I can't afford to eat out, then why the hell am I there?
Does any of it matter? Fuck no.
There's also this.
NYC is the home of the-17-dollar-cocktail-served-in-plastic-cup.
I was shocked by the dining prices in NYC, and I'm from Los Angeles!
I now expect to pay $13-18 for a restaurant cheeseburger with fries. That's either a basic double patty smash or a single patty with generous toppings. I understand places make money by up charging little things. It's obvious restaurants make more money off some things than other. Tell me you've never thought about the price of a cocktail…
If you are going to make a big deal about $3 on a first date you are likely going to be cheap on everything, I get it. For me, a date was a chance to show yourself in the best possible light and I wouldn't let $3 come between me and the meal I wanted.
I didn't watch the video, but from the story alone that is my take on it.
Mate that is steep for a slice of potentially shitty cheese. Don't usually have cheese and I can get an extra patty on a burger for the same price. In the moment if I was already there and wanted it I would do it without hesitation but it would be a not coming here again situation.
Lmfaoooo, I'm not laughing at you but at that bullshit she was spitting back at you. 😂 Some women out there really do just want to date their own fathers but the Electra Complex isn't too known so no one ever gets to call them on their parental fetish.
How old were ya? I know a "friend of a friend" who's 34 and and still thinks that at her big adult age. 😂
We don't even have his side, it's 100% just her side. 😂🤣
Did the guy not see that cheese was 3 dollars extra and got pissy when he saw it on the bill? Or did he know it was a 3 dollar upcharge and still got pissy when he saw it on the bill?
Like if you order something and don't bother seeing that it's an upcharge then you should just keep quiet and pay the bill, it's 3 dollars lol
Also don't think I'd want to date someone who posts about their dates on social media for everyone to see.
Like if you order something and don't bother seeing that it's an upcharge then you should just keep quiet and pay the bill, it's 3 dollars lol
Also don't think I'd want to date someone who posts about their dates on social media for everyone to see.
There's one final detail that has been left out.
$3 cheese + 9% tax + 20% tip = ~$4 cheese. OP buying the lede.
$3 cheese + 9% tax + 20% tip = ~$4 cheese. OP buying the lede.