But you're also writing off her feelings on the matter as well.
Blaming her is one thing. Considering how it might make her feel is another.
Are none of you folks fucking MARRIED?! Its not that goddamn complicated.
Example, years ago, I went to lunch with a lady co-worker because I had been awarded it through job performance, but she had a hand in helping me with it. I thought it fair to share the earnings. When I told my wife abiut it, she was pretty distressed about it. So now, I make it a point to either not do it at all, or discuss it with her prior.
This shit isnt binary, y'all.
I think that's fucking stupid and grownups should ... well... grow up about these things, but you can't compare an extra activity that's not officially part of work with swearing off working with women all the time. What if your wife was distressed that you had that woman coworker altogether? Not just about dinner, but that you worked with her. Would it be completely ridiculous to stop working with her? Or should you do your damned job?