.... I got nothing. This one can't be cracked!
Seriously, ask her out.
You don't need to wait either, just text her and ask if she'd be down for a date.
Sorry everyone, I'm just notoriously bad with this stuff. It got better in real life but I probably missed like 10 chances of girls giving me hints and I'm just super oblivious to this shit. I'm still really fucking bad at it online though. As you can see lol.OMG THIS IS THE LEAST CONFUSING STUFF THAT HAS EVER BEEN OR EVER WILL BE
I guess...but for me it's easier to read the situation in person rather than trying to read something out of songs I get sent lol.Right and in person would makes things more awkward for the both of you if she's not interested.
Sorry everyone, I'm just notoriously bad with this stuff. It got better in real life but I probably missed like 10 chances of girls giving me hints and I'm just super oblivious to this shit. I'm still really fucking bad at it online though. As you can see lol.
I just hinted relatively unsubtly that I'd like to just meet on a coffee rather sooner than later now. Let's hope for the best.
I guess...but for me it's easier to read the situation in person rather than trying to read something out of songs I get sent lol.
I really like her and we only know each other not even a week now. Normally I get to know people longer before anything happens.
Chill I already told her I'd like to invite her to a coffee. We met at my friends restaurant the last two times where she's working in the evening, chilling out together with my friend and me asking if we want to meet as two during the day instead of chilling at her workplace after closing time should be a hint big enough no? She didn't answer since then either so...yeah.ASK HER OUT
Don't hint about it or think about it.
Just do it.
But I asked lol.Stop looking for hints, you're never actually going to know unless you just ask.
But I asked lol.
And she said yes right now btw. Which makes me really fucking happy.
I had quite a few relationships but they never lasted long and I'm single for half a decade now lol. Not used to this stuff anymore. The only times something happened since then it was onenight stands and the likes.
I'll try. (It's basically impossible but I'll try lol) And thanks!
When you ask a girl out, you ask them on a date. Be as fucking blatant as you can be. EVERY girl I know appreciates it when a man has the confidence to actually ask someone on a date and not to "hang out" or "get coffee" or any of that.But I asked lol.
And she said yes right now btw. Which makes me really fucking happy.I mean there's still a chance she's just seeing this as a nice little meeting between people who like to talk to each other but I guess that's a small chance I can ignore for now.
I had quite a few relationships but they never lasted long and I'm single for half a decade now lol. Not used to this stuff anymore. The only times something happened since then it was onenight stands and the likes, and that wasn't often because I stopped going out frequently.
When you ask a girl out, you ask them on a date. Be as fucking blatant as you can be. EVERY girl I know appreciates it when a man has the confidence to actually ask someone on a date and not to "hang out" or "get coffee" or any of that.
There shouldn't be any of this "there's still a chance..." crap. You do it right, you both know exactly what's going on.
I said yea this too. Be firm and confident when it comes to asking and setting something upWhen you ask a girl out, you ask them on a date. Be as fucking blatant as you can be. EVERY girl I know appreciates it when a man has the confidence to actually ask someone on a date and not to "hang out" or "get coffee" or any of that.
There shouldn't be any of this "there's still a chance..." crap. You do it right, you both know exactly what's going on.
I guess...Well that train is gone now. I'll meet up with her next weekend and meet her at her faculty.When you ask a girl out, you ask them on a date. Be as fucking blatant as you can be. EVERY girl I know appreciates it when a man has the confidence to actually ask someone on a date and not to "hang out" or "get coffee" or any of that.
There shouldn't be any of this "there's still a chance..." crap. You do it right, you both know exactly what's going on.
I don't know if I'd call the word "date" informal. It does however have clear connotations - I intend to meet you with romantic intent.I guess it depends on the country/language. In English, it is easier to use the word "date" which is still quite informal.
I may be old and out of the slang around these days, but the same word in Portuguese "Encontro" carries a lot more weight I guess. "Sair juntos" (going out together) or set up a coffee or something to do together just the two of you are already enough hint.
That's so weird to me. Why are you looking for friends on a dating site?I've used those phrases on an online dating site before - where you expect they're looking to date - and more than once I met girls looking for just friends.
It gets a lot harder to make friends once you leave college, especially for the socially anxious who can't handle the crowds of a Meetup. It was a way to meet new people 1-on-1.That's so weird to me. Why are you looking for friends on a dating site?
If there's a looking for friends option then I get it. I just wouldn't go into a normal dating website trying to find friends. It seems super misleading at worst and a waste of time at best.It gets a lot harder to make friends once you leave college, especially for the socially anxious who can't handle the crowds of a Meetup. It was a way to meet new people 1-on-1.
To be fair, this was back when OKCupid had a "looking for friends" option.
What made it confusing was when people would have that they're looking for friends and looking for long-term relationships. I could filter out girls who weren't looking for long term things, but it was a crapshoot when they were looking for both.If there's a looking for friends option then I get it. I just wouldn't go into a normal dating website trying to find friends. It seems super misleading at worst and a waste of time at best.
What made it confusing was when people would have that they're looking for friends and looking for long-term relationships. I could filter out girls who weren't looking for long term things, but it was a crapshoot when they were looking for both.
Hence why I like the word "date" now. Cleared that problem right up.
I need an adventurous idea for a first date. A woman I'm chatting in was initially down for a coffee date. The talk died down and I had a shitty coffee date with someone earlier this week.
So I reignited the conversation by asking if she's up for something less boring than coffee.
I need an actual suggestion lol. Any ideas? I live in the Toronto area.
Cancel. Don't waste someone's time.So I have a date planned with someone, and I found out after-the-fact that she has a kid. While I obviously completely respect that, I know that this is not a situation I'm comfortable entering into.
Do you think it's screwed up if I cancel now? I don't want to lead someone on knowing nothing is going to come from it.
I guess I've already made up my mind, but meh lol. Kind of feel bad still.
Yeah, she didn't apologize. When I told her the reason I cancelled, and emphasized that it was clearly because she was running 4 hours late, she didn't respond back. She has yet to.I get that. Some people have a way of making you feel like you're at fault for things even when it logically doesn't make sense. The whole thing with you being sick doesn't even matter. Like you didn't use it as an excuse, you said you were still going to meet up. She was the one who couldn't keep her promise. I feel like she's guilty about being so late and ran with the whole sick thing because it's an easy way to make her sound like the victim and relieve her of that guilt. Cause it doesn't seem like she apologized at all, just immediately got all bitter, am I right about that?
And yeah, it doesn't matter if you're dating or even if you're just friends and there's nothing going on there. People will do that kind of stuff and it's really annoying. You'll arrange to do something together and they'll drop the ball on it and act like you have nothing better to do but to wait for them. You can tell these people what's up but sometimes even that doesn't change things. The best thing you can do is just adjust your own expectations of them which seems like that's exactly what you did here by just cancelling and doing other stuff instead of waiting around and going to her place later hoping she'd be there on time. You definitely didn't do anything wrong.
Yeah, I was sick. Still am sick, actually..I'm a bit confused, were you actually sick? Did you tell her you had plans with your mother who was in town that night? It doesn't sound like it because she expected you two to spend the "whole day together" and you agreed. I wouldn't have scheduled something with her in the first place with family in town from Oregon, but assuming I did I would make sure to mention that I had plans with my mom in the evening and cite that as the cancellation reason, not being sick.
Either way you're definitely not a jerk for it but sometimes misunderstands can be prevented by clear communication.
100% make sure she's interested first: Ask a few people from work out for drinks after and invite her along, too. "Hey me and some peeps are going out on Thursday, wanna come?" Make sure a few other ladies are there. Keep things friendly and don't hit on her. Just gauge if there's flirting and interest. If there's not then drop it.
Cancel. Explain yourself that you don't want to lead her on, and you're not comfortable with dating someone with kids. Simple as that really.
Just cancel, if you've met over an app you don't actually know each other so there's no awkwardness.So I have a date planned with someone, and I found out after-the-fact that she has a kid. While I obviously completely respect that, I know that this is not a situation I'm comfortable entering into.
Do you think it's screwed up if I cancel now? I don't want to lead someone on knowing nothing is going to come from it.
I guess I've already made up my mind, but meh lol. Kind of feel bad still.
Honestly your friend sound pretty entitled. Interested to see your update hahaYeah, she didn't apologize. When I told her the reason I cancelled, and emphasized that it was clearly because she was running 4 hours late, she didn't respond back. She has yet to.
I understand if something comes up and you're running late. Hey, even 4 hours late, but at least sound a little apologetic and concerned about me waiting up for you. "Im so sorry, im running very late, i totally understand if you want to reschedule, but I really do want to see you, and I hope we can still meet up today." Something along those lines...
I wasn't even upset about it until she turned it around on me like that.
I'm fairly confident she'll contact me sometime this week, so I'll keep you guys updated on how this turns out lol
Don't force yourself to be someone you're not. If you don't really want friends don't force it.Things are going pretty great with the girl I've been dating, there's really just one thing I'm worried about. For the last couple years I have been basically a hermit and workaholic, and as result I have basically zero social life. When she asks to meet my friends it's going to be pretty embarrassing. The last few months I've been making an effort to break out of that - I bought a car after only riding a bike for several years, and I've been attending more groups and clubs. I just suck at making friends tbh, and the friends that I have had I've been super flaky with on account of not having a car all those years.
The solution I suppose is pretty straightforward, keep going to group events and talking to people. It's just pretty unnatural for me.
Just stop instigating calling or texting, it will work itself out.I think right now the weirdest part of dating for me is when you want to stop seeing someone that you're only seeing super casually. You're not "dating" so you can't like, break up. At least there's no phrase as succinct as breaking up. Can it be done through a text or better in person? Who knows!
Just something floating through my head after seeing someone tonight.
Don't force yourself to be someone you're not. If you don't really want friends don't force it.
I don't think cars have anything to do with maintaining friendships. Or maybe it's an American thing?Things are going pretty great with the girl I've been dating, there's really just one thing I'm worried about. For the last couple years I have been basically a hermit and workaholic, and as result I have basically zero social life. When she asks to meet my friends it's going to be pretty embarrassing. The last few months I've been making an effort to break out of that - I bought a car after only riding a bike for several years, and I've been attending more groups and clubs. I just suck at making friends tbh, and the friends that I have had I've been super flaky with on account of not having a car all those years.
The solution I suppose is pretty straightforward, keep going to group events and talking to people. It's just pretty unnatural for me.
I don't think cars have anything to do with maintaining friendships. Or maybe it's an American thing?
Where I live it takes me an hour to see most people were I to go by bus. Since I also work a 3AM shift it's really hard to make that work for evening events.I don't think cars have anything to do with maintaining friendships. Or maybe it's an American thing?
I don't agree with this tbh, challenging yourself to be a better person is an essential part of life.Don't force yourself to be someone you're not. If you don't really want friends don't force it.
Those are two different things; a better you is not a different you.I don't agree with this tbh, challenging yourself to be a better person is an essential part of life.
Well what if you don't like who you are? People can change.Those are two different things; a better you is not a different you.
Those are two different things; a better you is not a different you.
One guy once said to me back in the day "No matter how fit your bird is you'll get bored of shagging her sooner or later". If you're just in a comfortable rutt time to change things up.Anyone ever feel bored with their relationship? Bored is too strong a word, but I've been with this person for 11 months now and there's nothing really wrong, but things don't feel as exciting and novel anymore and it's kinda bumming me out. I know it's normal for things to settle down though, and I think I'm just a bit depressed in general. It would probably help if I had a bit more of a social life outside my relationship.
Yes, i have broken up with a couple girls because of this. Most of the time, it was on me. I wasn't putting as much effort into the relationships as i could have.Anyone ever feel bored with their relationship? Bored is too strong a word, but I've been with this person for 11 months now and there's nothing really wrong, but things don't feel as exciting and novel anymore and it's kinda bumming me out. I know it's normal for things to settle down though, and I think I'm just a bit depressed in general. It would probably help if I had a bit more of a social life outside my relationship.
That might be the most British sentence ever spokenOne guy once said to me back in the day "No matter how fit your bird is you'll get bored of shagging her sooner or later". If you're just in a comfortable rutt time to change things up.
Yes, i have broken up with a couple girls because of this. Most of the time, it was on me. I wasn't putting as much effort into the relationships as i could have.
So, maybe try and spice things up a bit. Do things you wouldn't normally do. If you really think she's the one you want to spend your life with, then the juice is worth the squeeze