The problem is that there are people who are responding to people who are saying he's been behaving like an asshole with "but what about empathy" and I fundamentally reject that saying that someone is an asshole and saying that they need treatment/deprogramming -- or, for that matter, believing that dissociating from someone who is being violent or paranoid is sometimes a good and necessary act -- are ideas that are in contention.
There's huge difference between someone behaving like an asshole and being an asshole and you seem to use them almost interchangeably here. I know you know the difference because you posted the Jay smoove video, but I think its important to be specific with words here.
I don't think many people here would disagree that he has behaved like an asshole, I think most people are debating if he is an asshole, because of the context.