i was talking to a friend about this. I had a kid recently and my friend was like, "I never want kids because all I hear parents do is complain". And I think that's because it's so much easier to talk about what's hard than to try and explicate the colossal, existential joy that comes into your life. Admitting how much you love your kid would open a gap so vulnerable. It's hard to talk about except to say that's its the best thing I've ever done.
As to why we had a kid, we both felt like we'd lived a lot. We'd traveled and settled into careers and had friends and hobbies. And I wanted to share that with someone, to see my life through the prism of my child. To keep learning and growing with them.
Is it work? Oh hell yeah. But I can't imagine just.... living the same life I had 2 years ago, forever and ever.
That said, one is probably enough! I still want to have my time and my hobbies. And the financial aspect is significant.
And also, you may not want kids. That's fine! I think if you do you'll know and if you don't, don't! That's totally okay.
I've gotten more enjoyment being a parent than anything in life. I like taking them on adventures and teaching them things. It's hard to be a parent but worth the sacrifices.
I agree. With a kid the highs are higher, but the lows are lower as well.Same here. We didn't plan it. But we are happy we kept our daughter. It's an amazing experience raising a child.
However, it's also the hardest thing I ever did.
I wouldn't call not having kids a failure. I would call your comment one though.Reproduction the the only objectively quantifiable purpose of life. You may be the richest, most handsome, famous just outright gorgeous motherfucker on the entire planet, if you don't have kids you failed.
I have two kids.
Biological desire to see my progeny.
Selfish desire for joy. :)
Desire to have a family with my wife.
Wanting to add some innocence to the world and to remind myself of how pure life can be.
Mostly selfish desires, but I think people do most things for selfish desires. And that doesn't have to be seen as a negative.
Kids are a beautiful thing...when they're not driving you utterly insane.
Oh sure there is a selfish side to it. Hopefully also a responsibility. Wanting to be a great parent and try and raise a great person.I have two kids.
Biological desire to see my progeny.
Selfish desire for joy. :)
Desire to have a family with my wife.
Wanting to add some innocence to the world and to remind myself of how pure life can be.
Mostly selfish desires, but I think people do most things for selfish desires. And that doesn't have to be seen as a negative.
Kids are a beautiful thing...when they're not driving you utterly insane.
I've been in a relationship for a little while. Gf and I had a quick conversation about kids once. Both of us instantly said having kids didn't appeal to us and that was that lol.you'll understand when you're older and have meaningful relationships lmao
I've been in a relationship for a little while. Gf and I had a quick conversation about kids once. Both of us instantly said having kids didn't appeal to us and that was that lol.
It won't matter to them, they're dead.imagine your ancestors' struggle to survive, and that all ends with you
I get that kids can be cute sometimes, but that seems to be the only pro versus a long list of cons on having children.
Friends and and a spouse are equals rather complete dependants who need near constant care and cause significant financial burden.
My son started crawling today. My wife sent me this video.
It was awesome (to see after he had failed the whole hands and legs move together for a couple weeks)!!
There's no feeling like watching them hit milestones. I love it.
At some point those children grow up. They could be bill gates, martin luther or jobs.Friends and and a spouse are equals rather complete dependants who need near constant care and cause significant financial burden.
Your being ignorant if you think mankinds destiny is on one stranded to one planet.Beats me. Never felt the urge. And if there's one thing the planet doesn't need more of, it's people.
i was talking to a friend about this. I had a kid recently and my friend was like, "I never want kids because all I hear parents do is complain". And I think that's because it's so much easier to talk about what's hard than to try and explicate the colossal, existential joy that comes into your life. Admitting how much you love your kid would open a gap so vulnerable. It's hard to talk about except to say that's its the best thing I've ever done.
It's a video game message board. It's going to lean heavier on people who see kids as an obstacle to their gaming freedom.
My son started crawling today. My wife sent me this video.
It was awesome (to see after he had failed the whole hands and legs move together for a couple weeks)!!
There's no feeling like watching them hit milestones. I love it.
My son started crawling today. My wife sent me this video.
It was awesome (to see after he had failed the whole hands and legs move together for a couple weeks)!!
There's no feeling like watching them hit milestones. I love it.
This might seem like a joke but its true. Dont want to be that 80 year old staring at kids on them streets wishing you has your own grand kids to come visit..Hoping to have someone take care of you when you get old (free nursing)
I've been in a relationship for a little while. Gf and I had a quick conversation about kids once. Both of us instantly said having kids didn't appeal to us and that was that lol.
No joke.This might seem like a joke but its true. Dont want to be that 80 year old staring at kids on them streets wishing you has your own grand kids to come visit..
I plan to adopt someday with my boyfriend. You never know--the person who could help mitigate the crisis may not be born yet, or is waiting to be adopted.It's not worth it imo, especially with the ongoing climate crisis that makes me never want to adopt and raise a kid that will deal with all that