I´d rather be less upfront not because I'm shy but rather because I feel I am going to scare her off.
I also feel that there is little engagement outside meetings as she is terrible with texting.
If you scare her off by asking her on a date then it was never gonna work out.I´d rather be less upfront not because I'm shy but rather because I feel I am going to scare her off.
I also feel that there is little engagement outside meetings as she is terrible with texting.
You're not out of the woods yet my dude. These things have a habit of working on a time delay fuse and if some time in the near future your not where you want to be in terms of relationship status then those thoughts come creeping in.Just ended my 5 year relationship, things weren't going really smooth for the last few months.. Anyway things din't went really well last 2 days HOWEVER ever since yesterday it felt like things went back to normal for me in my head at least.
I'm hanging out with friends, continuing my fit life style as usual /w gaming and whatever else... It's just weird it took me 2 days to overcome this.. last time it was 6 months.
I´d rather be less upfront not because I'm shy but rather because I feel I am going to scare her off.
You're not out of the woods yet my dude. These things have a habit of working on a time delay fuse and if some time in the near future your not where you want to be in terms of relationship status then those thoughts come creeping in.
You're doing the right thing, keeping busy and being social so keep that up.
If you scare her off by asking her on a date then it was never gonna work out.
When people say to be confident with women, this is exactly what they mean. Not being a big show guy but willing to be direct and take the L if that's the way it goes.
Just ended my 5 year relationship, things weren't going really smooth for the last few months.. Anyway things din't went really well last 2 days HOWEVER ever since yesterday it felt like things went back to normal for me in my head at least.
I'm hanging out with friends, continuing my fit life style as usual /w gaming and whatever else... It's just weird it took me 2 days to overcome this.. last time it was 6 months.
I'm just curious, you were together for 5 years and had a few months of things not going smooth and you decided to end it, did you try and work it out or talk about it? Was there nothing you two could work on to make it better?
My girlfriend does not like that my family doesn't get along too well, we also had some problems with her feeling like I'm a "stranger" because we only see each other once a week due to work.
She didn't wanted to go to live with me a few months ago because she wanted to buy her own house instead of renting one with me..
She just called it quits instead of fighting
TLDR ; she wanted to break up and didn't give me a chance to even fix things.
Wow, that really sucks! I'm sorry she didn't want to work it out. Sounds like you are handling it well and I hope soon you find someone that is the perfect fit for you!
My family doesn't get along either. In fact, one of my uncles just tried to open a credit card in my 90 year old grandfather's name, we assume so he could run it up and never pay it and leave my grandfather on the hook for it.
He deleted and didn't think to block.If you want nothing to do with her anymore and you have no reason to keep in contact with her, just block the number.
I did not want to block... I just deleted it, so that I will not stalk...If you want nothing to do with her anymore and you have no reason to keep in contact with her, just block the number.
Grab the keys when she's at the door and say thanks, bye.I did not want to block... I just deleted it, so that I will not stalk...
She just wrote me now, that she has my keys...
Edit :One hour later I wrote her back, nice to.hear from you, tell me when and where and I am gonna pick it up.
She answered immediately, and said she could bring it to me...
Tell me I did everything right 😂
I just realized I've actually never made any of my relationships Facebook official.
That because too many men take rejection badly.You know, I understand that people ghost for all kinds of reasons. But to say yes to a date and then ghost before said date can even be set up is just bizarre to me. Literally the last thing this girl said to me was "Yes, I'd like that" to me asking her out.
Just say if you change your mind, give me a call and let it be.You know, I understand that people ghost for all kinds of reasons. But to say yes to a date and then ghost before said date can even be set up is just bizarre to me. Literally the last thing this girl said to me was "Yes, I'd like that" to me asking her out.
Everybody wishes dating could be this amicable.Just say if you change your mind, give me a call and let it be.
So why even respond when I asked her out?
Take a look at r/niceguys. There's many examples of guys flipping out simply becuse a woman did not reply to the fast enough.
Is the name ironic on purpose? Or is it just the universe being ironic?Take a look at r/niceguys. There's many examples of guys flipping out simply becuse a woman did not reply to the fast enough.
Is the name ironic on purpose? Or is it just the universe being ironic?
I don't know, maybe that's all it was but I just think it's fucking weird to be having a nice conversation, accept an invitation for a date, and then ghost.
Is the name ironic on purpose? Or is it just the universe being ironic?
I don't know, maybe that's all it was but I just think it's fucking weird to be having a nice conversation, accept an invitation for a date, and then ghost.
I don't know, maybe that's all it was but I just think it's fucking weird to be having a nice conversation, accept an invitation for a date, and then ghost.
Because that's how she's treating you. Cut her out of your life.
None of this changes my response. Whether you are faultless or not, this clearly isnt good for either of you. Like Zeyphersan said, what are you getting out of this?I mean, I'm not faultless here. I've made my mistakes in this. I wavered on the age gap as well to begin with back in December when she first came on to me, so it makes sense that she would try dating down at school after that. I reconciled the age difference after talking to some friends/family of mine though and felt like I made it pretty clear in March (and since then) how I felt. Also, her parents told her that if she were dating me, they would pull her college tuition due to the age gap, so that was a fun thing to learn after I started having feelings for her (and her me). Which I'm sure just worked to create conflicting feelings in her, and made me question things (I told her that if we still felt for each other, I would talk to her parents to try to ease their minds. I kind of already know them...)
On one hand, I want to keep her as a friend, because that seems like the mature thing to do, but on the other, I'm scared that we're going to hang out this summer, those feelings will come again for her (since so far, every single time we've been near each other, she's felt something for me), and we'll do this all again. I don't want to be used as a second option the entire time I'm friends with her, or as just that guy she just keeps on call while she's home from school. I want to be someone's first option, as old school as that may be.
oh it has happened to me too once. Great conversation for 3 weeks, two dates, decided to meet again, and one day suddenly ghosted. And then you question your entire existence lmao and try to figure out what exactly went wrong but but the most likely thing is she just found someone better that she would be with. Since she wasn't committed to you, its easier to just ghost you then make up excuse or tell you the truth. ITS JUST EASIER for them.
You call her your lady, but you haven't seen her for 4 months?? Then when you do meet up again and ask for clarification on the relationship she tells you to wait a WEEK?So uh..boy my lady I've been seeing have been a rollercoaster of emotions. This is the same one I've been talking about the last posts. We dated a while, had fantastic dates made out already on the second one etc. Then she came out with the "Hey I need to fix these stuff before I can continue on seeing you", and these "stuff" were finding a new living and a new job which was stressing her out, understandable. To be honest I felt like both her being honest because I've talked to her and follow her on Instagram so shes been telling the truth about her situation, but at the same time I felt like - Come on!? You cant find an hour for a cup of coffe during this stint?
So uhh..today I got a message from her wanting to meet up...It's been 4 months ago last time I saw her. And I really fucking liked her and I thought shit was over, we did have some communication during these 4 months where I sort of left her the opportunity to bail out, but she never did. And today she wanted to meet, this is the very same week where she actually signed a new job contract so she sort of did get back to me after she sorted her stuff out. I was still unsure how I would proceed, but decided to meet her. And again...we had a fantastic time, we met at 20:00, and I just got back home and it's 03:00 am...we made out like it was the fucking millenium shift, and I hate to admit it but Im falling for this lady badly and I still don't know where we'll land. I told her that I wanted her to tell me if she liked me or not (I knew that she does, but she never told me ), she said she does like me, but she seemed very unsure what she wants exactly, but that she definitely likes me, and then we made out again...Im usually very straight forward with my decisions of what to do, but this situation leaves me in a place I've never been before and I don't know if I should keep pursue it?
She did tell me that she would give me an answer by the end of next week what she wants from this though so hopefully I'll have an answer. You just never now when it comes to people, you can have the greatest chemistry and still end up with nothing, Please root for me as I root for you!
Relationships are tough. It's a bit heartless to do this to you on your one month anniversary.She's been acting strangely, and isn't really talking to me. I have no idea why. I sent a message saying hey and happy Easter, using gifs because she likes them, and got a weird face emoji in response.
I doubt this is going to last, and wonder if we'll even go to the game on Tuesday.
Relationships are tough. It's a bit heartless to do this to you on your one month anniversary.
Cuddling tho? Congrats, anyway, hope the good vibes continue!So, I had my second date yesterday. We went out to eat and have drinks. After that we walked out and she suggested we go to her house. Ended up making out and stayed up til 5am. I slept in her bed but she told me she wasn't ready to have sex yet.
I spent the whole day with her today and we've had a really good time together. She's currently studying for an exam that she has on Monday, then we'll head to bed. I told her I could leave because I feel bad that I might be distracting her but she wants me to stay with her.
It's been a great weekend
You call her your lady, but you haven't seen her for 4 months?? Then when you do meet up again and ask for clarification on the relationship she tells you to wait a WEEK?
She does not want a relationship with you. Your an exciting diversion who she can pick up and drop at any time becuse your a lovesick puppy who'll wait around for your next pat on the head from her.
Forget her, find other women to date who will not put you on timeout for months at a time.
I agree with what you say and that's how I see it as well normally, but there are some circumstances that don't make this as black and white as you see it. And she herself told me before "I don't have to wait around for her" which I clearly answered that "I wouldn't". So of course I've been dating others during these 4 months...and right now there are 2 other women Im seeing, but yes I do have feelings for this one and that's shit you can't just turn off easily since I very rarely get "lovesick" or in general in love with someone.
Lovesick or not, moving on wont be an issue for me, but I do want to see how she behaves now since she literally told me that she now have all the lost time needed to see me. Why do I have to wait a week to see her again then? She's going on vacation back home (she's from abroad).
Whatever happens happen, or not.
So, I had my second date yesterday. We went out to eat and have drinks. After that we walked out and she suggested we go to her house. Ended up making out and stayed up til 5am. I slept in her bed but she told me she wasn't ready to have sex yet.
I spent the whole day with her today and we've had a really good time together. She's currently studying for an exam that she has on Monday, then we'll head to bed. I told her I could leave because I feel bad that I might be distracting her but she wants me to stay with her.
It's been a great weekend
Best feeling in the world...So, I had my second date yesterday. We went out to eat and have drinks. After that we walked out and she suggested we go to her house. Ended up making out and stayed up til 5am. I slept in her bed but she told me she wasn't ready to have sex yet.
I spent the whole day with her today and we've had a really good time together. She's currently studying for an exam that she has on Monday, then we'll head to bed. I told her I could leave because I feel bad that I might be distracting her but she wants me to stay with her.
It's been a great weekend
A lot of cuddling and a lot of touching and a lot of kissing.
Everything is fine, I did wait 4 weeks before I had sex with my ex.A lot of cuddling and a lot of touching and a lot of kissing.
Even if we're not having sex yet, she's at least letting me take things further and further everyday. I told her she wanted it just as bad as me and she said she does but she doesn't want to rush things. I can respect that.
But damn, is it amazing to wake up to someone that's naturally gorgeous in the morning. I must say.
Aye, nice!A lot of cuddling and a lot of touching and a lot of kissing.
Even if we're not having sex yet, she's at least letting me take things further and further everyday. I told her she wanted it just as bad as me and she said she does but she doesn't want to rush things. I can respect that.
But damn, is it amazing to wake up to someone that's naturally gorgeous in the morning. I must say.