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How do I aproach my partner to suggest... a threesome?

Oct 25, 2017
5,154
Atlanta GA
Communication is everything, or you may destroy your relationship. Asking for a threesome well into an established monogamous relationship can be tough. Don't fuck it up and make sure you're both communicating your honest feelings and needs.

This is something that should have been talked about at the start of the relationship tho
 
Oct 25, 2017
6,490
this falls into open/closed relationships, something that should have been talked about from the beginning.

if your partner is okay with an open relationship then yeah, if not not then don't go for the threesome
What the fuck kind of relationships start off talking about being in open relationships.
 
Nov 17, 2017
5,757
Not a trick question, it was phrased as if all relationships should open with the talk if they’re open or not.
Shouldn't they though? All relationships start when both people discuss the desire to be in one, or you know "define the relationship", "what are we?", etc. All of my relationships started with having that exclusivity talk so I always figured if you wanted an open relationship that would be the time to express it.
 
Oct 25, 2017
6,490
Shouldn't they though? All relationships start when both people discuss the desire to be in one, or you know "define the relationship", "what are we?", etc. All of my relationships started with having that exclusivity talk so I always figured if you wanted an open relationship that would be the time to express it.
Maybe I’ve just been unlucky/lucky whichever way you want to look at it but all the relationships I’ve been in it’s fairly obvious what’s going on when you get into a relationship that it’s the two of you and it doesn’t need a talk to clarify the situation
 
Jan 19, 2018
599
Not a trick question, it was phrased as if all relationships should open with the talk if they’re open or not.
All relationships really should.

They may not all be open in the beginning, but it's something that should be in the open if it's a thing one or both are interested in or expect. It's always a good thing to be on the same page in the beginnings of a relationship.
 
Oct 25, 2017
13,719
A Resetera threesome. Folks orgasming over asking each other for Nintendo Switch ports before finishing up over asking what a bidet is and how one properly cleanses ones asshole.

Good luck with advice OP.
 
Oct 27, 2017
282
To each their own, you know? Life is short, I guess. Only get the one, can't really compare it to anything, but it seems we've agreed that it's short. So sometimes you do stuff.

But one time during the act the bed broke, I rolled into it, she went the other way and I narrowly avoided Pierogi Disease. Third party in there, who knows what happens? Too much strife for me.

Just ask and try not to tear anything.
 
Nov 17, 2017
5,757
New Link DEFINITELY isn't taking any chances though lol.
Funny considering New Link came to Smash without his Zelda and is smashing with LttP Zelda instead.


Maybe I’ve just been unlucky/lucky whichever way you want to look at it but all the relationships I’ve been in it’s fairly obvious what’s going on when you get into a relationship that it’s the two of you and it doesn’t need a talk to clarify the situation
Yeah, that's pretty lucky. I've only had monogamous relationships but I still couldn't imagine not ever having the talk. Many people date multiple people at once nowadays so it's even more necessary to define the relationship now than it's ever been.
 
Oct 25, 2017
6,490
Funny considering New Link came to Smash without his Zelda and is smashing with LttP Zelda instead.



Yeah, that's pretty lucky. I've only had monogamous relationships but I still couldn't imagine not ever having the talk. Many people date multiple people at once nowadays so it's even more necessary to define the relationship now than it's ever been.
Yeah, I haven’t dated for 16 years lol so a little out of touch
 
Nov 3, 2017
6,363
Portland, OR
Kingdom Hearts has been doing trios since kingdom hearts 1 so learn from sora donald and goofy
Nomura’s signature is swapping into stories that have potential love triangles beloved by fans and neatly pairing off characters into closed off couples.

ie Cloud-Tifa-Aeris and Sora-Kairi-Riku are no longer triangles after Nomura has had his way.

In other worlds, sorry OP, Kingdom Hearts ain’t gonna save you here.
 
Oct 27, 2017
990
Like others have already brought up OP is your partner known to be open to experimenting along these lines wrt their sexual history, have you already addressed similar desires or other things like open relationships etc. If not and they're historically the monogamous or vanilla across the board type this could blow up in your face big time so be careful. It also helps to actually stick around with the thread and engage with some of these clarifying questions if you're serious about pursuing this :)
 
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Oct 26, 2017
5,818
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
 
Oct 25, 2017
2,996
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
I mean if you wanna spice things up but your partner isn't that sexually adventurous maybe it's time to rethink if you two are actually compatible, or if somehow you can find another outlet for your ceaseless libido that doesn't harm her trust in you.
 
Oct 25, 2017
5,154
Atlanta GA
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
Yeah it's not really something you can just suddenly bring up 3.5 years into an established monogamous relationship without running a huge risk. Obviously I hope everything works out just fine for you and I'm not trying to give dating advice to someone who is in a relationship, but as someone who is open about my non-monogamy with anyone I start to date, it's really the kind of thing that should come up in the dating phase. What I'm saying here is definitely not the case with every individual/partnership but just in my experience, it's better to make sure that it's not a red line before things get serious - especially if it's something you are even remotely entertaining at any point in your life.
 
Oct 25, 2017
5,564
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
Smooth.
 
Oct 25, 2017
1,463
Yeah it's not really something you can just suddenly bring up 3.5 years into an established monogamous relationship without running a huge risk. Obviously I hope everything works out just fine for you and I'm not trying to give dating advice to someone who is in a relationship, but as someone who is open about my non-monogamy with anyone I start to date, it's really the kind of thing that should come up in the dating phase. What I'm saying here is definitely not the case with every individual/partnership but just in my experience, it's better to make sure that it's not a red line before things get serious - especially if it's something you are even remotely entertaining at any point in your life.
Completely disagree. If you can’t bring up something like this in a long term relationship then you should end it right now. People change, life gets real, shit happens. You need to be able to roll with things, compromise and move on together.

“I’m interested in a threesome. Are you?”
“I’m not really comfortable with the idea. But let’s talk about it”

If that is a risk you are doing it wrong.
 
Oct 28, 2017
12,660
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
How do you make a joke?

How about we fuck your friend together? HAHAHA it was a joke! I fooled you.
 
Oct 27, 2017
350
We have been together for almost 3.5 years now, and I feel like it would be a... nice experience to shake things up?

I am not sure it is a good idea but I am kind of into it... but I am also at a very horny phase of my life so maybe I am thinking too much with the d.

People who already did it... is it worth it?

EDIT: MODS PLS HALP I THOUGHT I WAS IN THE ETCTERA PART
I am gonna warning you that the majority of times, It ends up damaging the relationship.
 
Oct 27, 2017
10,616
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
You just told ‘em ya wanna feck a friend, dog.
 
Oct 29, 2017
4,155
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
Hopefully not RIP your relationship too...
 
Oct 25, 2017
1,109
Completely disagree. If you can’t bring up something like this in a long term relationship then you should end it right now. People change, life gets real, shit happens. You need to be able to roll with things, compromise and move on together.

“I’m interested in a threesome. Are you?”
“I’m not really comfortable with the idea. But let’s talk about it”

If that is a risk you are doing it wrong.

Depends on the person, for some people it could feel like it's already cheating if the partner has a real interest/plans to fuck other people. Of course it's a risk.
 
Oct 26, 2017
2,089
I... love this forum.

I just arrived from the movies (Creed 2 is cool yo), and then I tried to suggest it as a joke (I specifically mentioned a friend of his, which was not a good idea at all lmao) and he got passive aggressive about it, so I think that is a nope dawg.

RIP my threesome dream
Should've mentioned a character from the movie or something oops