OK, that's some complete bullshit on your parents behalf, because that ain't no life for a cat.
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Get a mod to edit your title and put some more info in your OP so people don't keep swinging on you.
This is the right take. Don't be an asshole to your cat. Remember that he will care for you and use that to help you with your depression.
He was piled on for an absolutely low-effort OP with a shitty title. Framing pet abandonment as the responsible thing to do is horrible. One wonders how much time the OP took to research this on their own before posting on a video game forum.
Who do you think you are acting high and mighty? Based on the barebones OP, it seemed they're just going to abandon a pet cause things have gotten a little tough.
And people who treat their pets like something that can just be disposed of when they become inconvenient pisses me right off.
Because most discarded pet stories don't end like yours and end with them dead....
That doesn't sound like a good environment for any cat, regardless of whether or not you're around.
The majority here thinks that he should not abandon the cat, because its not that much work and the cat doesn't even need soo much interaction.Everyones insulting him, tbh. So i can see why.
And he rescued him, yeah? Yall act like he went out specifically seeking a cat
The majority here thinks that he should not abandon the cat, because its not that much work and the cat doesn't even need soo much interaction.
I've had him for two years now, I rescued him after he was left to die in a cooler in the alley next to my hone, but I was recently given a wake up call and told I need to sort my shit out. I fucking hate giving him up, but it's a necessary step to growing up.
Then be better. Isn't that what this whole thing is about? Your stepmother asked you to fix your stuff. I have to say she doesn't sound very understanding, but that's besides the point. You are talking about disowning a pet. Those are your words. Your ditching a life you took responsibility for, because you need to 'fix your shit'? That's not fixing anything. Saying you need to focus on work should not mean working 80 hour weeks. You should be doing the work you do well. That leaves plenty of time to come home and feed your cat and ensure it has what it needs. This is a sentient pet you're talking about. A cat you've had for two years. You have to realize you are not making rational decision when you're saying throwing out a cat is the right thing to do, so you can focus on not making bad decisions.
Doing things like this is trying to solve your bad decisions by making more bad decisions. It seems you think that this means you won't have any free time, or time to do what you want to do. That's not being an adult. Being an adult is accepting responsibility, like being on time for work and fucking taking care of pets whose life depend on you. If you have an issue with spending all your money on cat toys, and sit around in your pajamas, playing with your cat instead of going to work, you would make a better case as to why you can't have a pet. However, even then, removing the symptom isn't fixing your problem. it sounds like you're over-correcting. if you're wasting your time on things that doesn't give you anything, like mindlessly scrolling on your facebook feed for hours on end for no enjoyment, restrict yourself from those time sinks. Don't remove everything all together, because the moment the feelgood from 'getting your shit together' ends, and you are back to what made you over-indulge in the first place, you will find your life lacking and start over-indulging again.
Also, none of these things has anything to with taking care of a cat. If your step-mom thinks this is a good idea, she is a complete moron. Please don't think you're getting your life together in any way by abandoning those that need you.
His step-mom. The same step-mom that doesn't allow the cat to leave OP's bedroom, ever.Who told you that "sorting out your shit" includes shierking your responsibility. Don't take advise from this person.
You never know whether they care or not. We could discuss this, but thats not the point...
You never know whether they care or not. We could discuss this, but thats not the point...
Temporarily give your cat away to someone you trust
Get a job
Move out
Get your cat back
No, he was piled on because y'all are ridiculously judgemental about this topic.
If you have to give it up, this is the best way. You wouldn't even have to "disown" it in this situation, you could still visit it regularly.Temporarily give your cat away to someone you trust
Get a job
Move out
Get your cat back
It did not deserve the ridiculous responses ITT, at all.
If your parents want your cat locked, talk to them and explain why the cat matters to you. Saying that your parents don't allow him to leave your bedroom isn't an excuse to relieve you of your responsibility with him. Giving up on the cat isn't the answer for growing up. Hell, TALK with your parents about what you are thinking and maybe they will come out to their senses how fucked up this is, and how the logic you went through to conclude is based on your step mom not really knowing how to reach you.
Yes it is the entire point, OP is asking for advice not for holier than thou judgemental nonsense...
You can go talk to people and discover if they'd make a good home. My mother takes in rescue animals sometimes, if you met her you'd know immediately your pet would be very well loved.
OP could, with some effort, find a place like this.
Fucks sake, you Muppets are ready to dogpile at the slightest provocation eh?
Have you tried looking into any local no-kill shelters OP?
Who are you talking about? I'm talking about the judgemental people shitting on OP for no reason.Some of us are trying to give advice. That advice might not be the advice the OP wants, but it's advice all the same. He clearly cares about this animal or he wouldn't have asked for advice in the first place.
Because getting rid of the cat is irresponsible. You chose to take care of it. It's your responsibility until it dies.Wow y'all are weird. He's trying to ask for advice as to not do something irresponsible and all he gets is questioned on "but wtf dude?"
Could you put up a post at your job or college?
My parents who I live with say that every minute I'm gone he starts meowing none stop and gets super bad anxiety. He's not allowed to leave my room so he's lonely for most of the day.
Yes it is the entire point, OP is asking for advice not for holier than thou judgemental nonsense...
You can go talk to people and discover if they'd make a good home. My mother takes in rescue animals sometimes, if you met her you'd know immediately your pet would be very well loved.
OP could, with some effort, find a place like this.
Please stop projecting.
Who are you talking about? I'm talking about the judgemental people shitting on OP for no reason.
Because getting rid of the cat is irresponsible. You chose to take care of it. It's your responsibility until it dies.
So the only responsible thing is to find another house for it that will take care of it and show it love. If you can't do that, then too fucking bad... It's your cat.
"Don't give up the cat it's a shitty thing to do" is advice. Just not what he wants. You can't always get want you want.
It did not deserve the ridiculous responses ITT, at all.
It's pretty gross.
Btw op you said in the other thread that you are 20. I was a lech, total jobless fuckup till like 22, dropping out of college and then taking like 5 years to finish a 3 year career.
These things... they take time... if you can find a way of give yourself time and work it out slowly, dont go taking drastic measures like crazy
Ridiculous responses being the ones that point out how incongruous "growing up" and "shirking responsibilities" are?
As a cat owner, and someone that cares about animal welfare, I get extremely upset when people say "oh, I have to grow up, so I'm trying to disown my cat". If OP had taken the time to explain the situation, they'd have gotten better and more accurate responses. The way things were posted, everyone has been completely in the right for attacking OP. Up until more information was presented, it wasn't badly worded. It was just terrible actions. Given more context, people start to realize that things aren't the way they seemed first, but that's not the responsibilities of everyone posting in this thread. That's the responsibility of OP.
If I make a thread and say "how can I kill my cat? It needs to die, so I was just wondering how I should do it", I would expect people to treat me like a horrible person. If the context was actually that my cat was so ill that I deemed euthanasia, and I was wondering what methods vets used, it would be my issue that I didn't explain that. That's what's going on here.
No it's not... not by default.
sometimes a person cannot give the care needed any more, many legitimate reasons for this. It doesn't make a person a monster, or even irresponsible, as long as they make sure to find a caring home which can be done.
No, that's not advice at all. It#s judgemental nonsense.
Nope. Because sometimes passing a pet to another home IS the responsible thing to do.
So if he said he had to give up his 2 year old daughter you response would be.
"sometimes a person cannot give the care needed any more, many legitimate reasons for this."
Cats aren't humans. They don't need to go outside to get fucking Vitamin D. Unless by Vitamin D you mean Death by car or animal.as a cat owner (1) for about 9 years ...
it's really easy.
feed it. clean the litter box. let it outside for a few min. to get some vitamin D. pet it. play with it while watching TV or even sitting at your desk while posting on resetera. My cat like to cuddle up by my feet while i'm at my chair.
not that hard.
Is this a joke? OP rescued the cat. He could've let it die but he didn't and now he has a chance to find it a good, loving home. Please stop.Because getting rid of the cat is irresponsible. You chose to take care of it. It's your responsibility until it dies.
So the only responsible thing is to find another house for it that will take care of it and show it love. If you can't do that, then too fucking bad... It's your cat.
But not in this case, even given all the information in this thread. OP is suggesting too radical changes, and is not tackling the issue that his parents are forcing his cat to have an extremely low quality of life. The right thing to do is to making sure the cat has better living arrangements. That's the first step in this case. Not just giving it up.
Basically I need to focus on more important things in life right now, like work and college, so that leaves no time for pets. I'll just end up making him feel neglected. So I need some advice on what's the best possible way to disown a pet
Edit: I live at home with my parents. The cat has anxiety issues. He's by himself most of the time and my parents won't let him leave my room